Frequently Asked Questions
Who is Four Handed Massage for?
Four handed massage is for adults of all ages, body shapes and sexual orientations. We also recognise that there are clients who do not identify as man or woman, possibly identifying as transgender, non-binary or gender fluid. We believe that everyone can benefit from this unique experience. We do not judge or discriminate, and our massage is always specifically tailored for you and your own positive intentions as the client.
We also welcome adults with physical challenges or limitations and can work on a soft mattress on the floor rather than a massage couch if this offers greater ease and comfort for the client.
Some health conditions and medications are not compatible with the sessions we offer. In care for your overall well-being, we will ask you questions regarding your health in advance of booking a session.
Can I bring a partner?
Yes, you can bring your partner and for this there are a several options:
- Side-by-side Massage for Couples
- Sharing in Your Partner’s Experience
- Supportive or Chaperone Option
- Learn the Art of Four Handed Massage
Alternatively, if you wish to bring a friend or family member you can share the delights of Duo Massage.
See our ‘For Couples’ page for more details about these options.
We occasionally offer workshops for couples and if this appeals to you, please register your interest by contacting Harmony via email at harmony@four-handedmassage.co.uk
I've had massage before, how is this different to other types of massage?
Due to having two practitioners it may feel like the equivalent of experiencing three or four hours of treatment time, depending on the length of session you book. This leads to deeper states of relaxation and surrender.
In most massages the tendency is to track the massage with the mind, whereas in four handed massage this is significantly reduced, which for many is a relief and can also facilitate different levels of consciousness.
Many massage treatments work with a routine. However, in the four handed massage we work in a synchronised way, tuning in to each other, intuitively responding to the needs of the client and creating a unique experience to meet what arises in the moment.
This is a whole body pleasure experience!
Do I have to take all my clothes off?
Our suggestion is to remove all clothes as this allows the free flow of movement within the massage and opening of the full body to pleasure. However, you are always in choice and we work within your own level of comfort in the moment.
We provide a sarong (a large piece of cotton material used to wrap around the body) and we then utilise this to maintain modesty as required.
All practitioners will be wearing sarongs throughout the session as part of the devotional nature of four handed massage.
To enable you and your body to feel warm and to support relaxation, the room is cosy, the oil is warm, and the massage table is heated.
Is there mutual touch? Are we all naked?
Touch is one-way from practitioner to client, giver to receiver. We encourage you to enjoy the opportunity to receive the experience without any pressure or expectation to offer anything in return.
We are aware that many of our clients spend a lot of time taking care of or supporting other people, families, friends, relatives, work colleagues. We suggest you give yourself the luxury of ‘me time’ and focus on the sensations within your own body without trying to give pleasure back or distract yourself by giving attention to the massage givers.
This approach creates space for what makes YOU feel good, what brings pleasure to YOUR body and how it really feels FOR YOU? This focus on pleasure or ‘good’ feelings and sensations can shed new light on what you may like to ask for in future sexual experiences and allow you to access other aspects of your being for health and healing.
Although you are welcome to be as naked as you feel comfortable, we will wear sarongs throughout the session in line with sacred Tantric Devotional rituals. There are no exceptions to this.
What if I become aroused or get an erection...is that OK?
In all of our sessions, your arousal and erotic energy is celebrated and encouraged within the container and boundaries that we agree upon at the beginning of your session. Likewise, if you become deeply relaxed and not at all aroused then this is welcome too. This is YOUR session for your body to respond as your body needs to, without pressure or expectation.
Your intention for each session is thoroughly discussed and consented to by both the client and the practitioner(s) and once this has been decided, any further requests are shelved for discussion at future sessions.
This helps to protect both parties and leaves less room for misunderstanding or non-consensual activities to occur.
What do I need to bring or prepare?
You don’t need to bring anything, but if you would like to bring your own towel or wrap-around/sarong, please do so.
We request that you arrive clean and freshly showered, and if possible, please refrain from using strong smelling perfumes, after-shave, or cosmetic products.
Please allow time for parking and aim to arrive on time, certainly not more than 5 minutes early as we do not have a waiting area.
We suggest that you bring a bottle of water, especially to rehydrate yourself following the session.
We recommend some down time after your session to integrate your experience prior to going to your next appointment. There are plenty of nice walks and cafés close by.
What if I need to cancel?
We ask for a 50% deposit on booking with the balance to be paid on the day of the session. If a cancellation is made more than 48 hours before the start of the session, there is an option for a refund or to rebook.
If a cancellation is made within 48 hours of the session time, 25% of the full fee is charged, and within 24 hours 50% is charged.
If the session is cancelled on the day of the booking the full fee is payable. If you have a genuine emergency, please do let us know and let’s have a conversation.
See here for further information about Terms & Conditions, Privacy and Cancellation Policies.
“When we touch a person we touch their entire history, their deepest wounds, their secret identity, their healing powers and their most profound capacity for joy” (Caffyn Jesse)
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